Who did you learn to become in order to belong, cope or be approved of?

Some people learned to become useful.Some became pleasing.Some became bright and high-functioning.Some became invisible.Some became self-sufficient too early.Some became accommodating, endlessly understanding, emotionally responsible for everyone else in the room.Some became hard.Some became good.Some became small.Some became exceptional.

What part of that learned self are you ready to honour and release?

The pleasing self, the capable self, the invisible self, the endlessly responsible self, the polished self, the one who never asks for too much, may no longer be large enough for the life now asking to emerge.

Who might you be beneath the adaptation?

the person who wants peace, honesty, beauty, rest, room, meaning, dignity, a life that fits.

The Self You Learned to Be

Deirdre Mc Nally

May 25

6 min read